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Divorce might feel like the end of the world. Having seen yourself as part of a couple for years, you now must return to being single. Many people struggle with the adjustment.
Helpfully, there are concrete steps you can take that will allow you to move on after your divorce. As a seasoned Los Angeles divorce lawyer, I have seen some clients flounder after receiving their divorce decree, but I have also seen many more clients flourish. Here are tips for living your best life after divorce.
You aren’t doing yourselves any favors if you don’t allow yourself to mourn the loss of your relationship. As WebMD recommends, you should make a space for these negative emotions but don’t dwell on them. One option is to keep a diary in which you write about feelings of grief and unhappiness, but once you close the diary, you try to maintain a positive outlook.
Being physically active will help you feel better—just the release of endorphins should lift your mood. However, physical activity is also something that can occupy your mind and allow you to meet people. Join a pickup basketball league or a walking group. Take up tennis, golf, or bowling. Whatever you do, don’t do it alone.
This is a tough one. After a divorce, you might blame yourself for the marriage’s failure. You need to forgive yourself for your flaws. No one is perfect.
Of course, this is easier said than done. Just how do you learn to accept yourself? One way could be to take up a creative hobby, such as memoir writing, which allows you to think critically about your life but in a non-judgmental way. Writing a memoir could be a way to figure out who you truly are.
Life immediately after a divorce might seem topsy-turvy. You could be trying to find a new place to live and handling childcare responsibilities on your own. However, this is the perfect time to do something different. Do something you were too afraid to try before. Some options include:
Instead of focusing on returning to who you were before you were married, you can make personal growth the focus of the next few years.
You might hate being single. Some people really hate being single. Also, your ex could have immediately remarried right after the divorce, so you might feel pressure to get into a relationship.
However, it’s best to wait until you are truly ready. A little alone time can’t hurt, and you shouldn’t compare yourself to your ex. You’ll know when you want to get back out onto the dating scene, so trust your instincts.
If you are preparing for divorce, call us. We can help you with the process. Please call 877-721-4551 to schedule a free initial consultation, where we can answer your questions and help you learn about your legal rights.